Lessons Learnt From A Suicide Story

I read on Linda Ikeji's Blog that a 14 year old British girl committed suicide, and why? Because she was bullied and stigmatized by her peers, she couldn’t even use the web as a safe haven because they bullied her online also. They told her she was ugly weird and unwanted by everyone, she was ridiculed at every attempt she made at being a part of a group or making new friends. Her mom always did the best she could to help her get above it all and have a positive mind-set but obviously her words became insufficient for the suffering girl, she felt she had no friend in the world and that she was unwanted everywhere, “what’s the point of living in a world where no one wants you” she probably thought. She even wrote a dying poem.

This saddens me, I don’t understand why people would act like that, they should put themselves in her shoes, would they have enjoyed being in her position, being alone with no one to talk to. I’m sure not all the people who rejected her actually did so because they wanted to, they probably did it because their friends were doing it or because the so called cool kids didn’t approve of her and they didn’t want to be ostracized along with her. Looking at her picture she’s nothing close to ugly, and let’s say she was ugly even, that’s not enough reason to treat her like an outcast, and if she was weird so what, people deem whatever they are not used to as weird, most ‘weird’ people are just unique and sometimes they’re the best to be around, they let you see things from a different perspective. I believe she was probably an interesting girl but no one gave her a chance to show it. And the social networks are not to blame, people can be mean where ever they are or with any chance they get, some even go to great lengths just to be mean to others so the social networks have no fault in this.

Reading about the incident I realized that in one way or the other you might also be treating someone like an outcast though unintentional, that person you ignore, snub or just out rightly refuse to be friends with might actually need your friendship more than you know and might actually be completely different from the idea you have of him/her. We should all try to be friendly with everyone around us, you don’t have to be best buds with everyone but at least try relate with everyone, no one should feel unwanted.

If anyone needs a friend I’m here, though I might be thousands of miles away I can at least be a pen pal, my contact info is right there on the right column. No one should feel unwanted, everyone is interesting in their own way, if the people around you don’t appreciate you then that sucks for them cuz they don’t get to experience your awesomeness, just chill people who will cherish your company will come around eventually. And remember I’m here. 

Her Dying Poem

 And sorry about the absence but that might happen be the case for the next three weeks, i've got exams and the wifi in my hall is down so it'll be hard to keep the posts regular for a while.